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Shipwreck theory of personality
If a ship gets into difficulty it could jettison some stock or heavy equipment and put people into lifeboats where their future takes a different mode and direction. These things and more have the aim of survival of important players and aspects.
Do we do this with our personalities too? It would make sense. I think all theories are worth consideration, but cannot see why people:a) get so wound up about them
b) try to make money out of them
c) seek fame through them
We're all in the same boat of life, whatever journey we have, and whether we think the same, use the same strategies as anyone/everyone when the boat sinks or personal narrative dashes to the rocks. Some theories can even be useful with a diametric approach.
If your ship (you) hits something and things get thrown overboard, come the dawn and calmer sea you could have lost or forgotten them. That's where the salvage operation of spirit or soul rescue could come in.
If a ship gets into difficulty it could jettison some stock or heavy equipment and put people into lifeboats where their future takes a different mode and direction. These things and more have the aim of survival of important players and aspects.
Do we do this with our personalities too? It would make sense. I think all theories are worth consideration, but cannot see why people:a) get so wound up about them
b) try to make money out of them
c) seek fame through them
We're all in the same boat of life, whatever journey we have, and whether we think the same, use the same strategies as anyone/everyone when the boat sinks or personal narrative dashes to the rocks. Some theories can even be useful with a diametric approach.
If your ship (you) hits something and things get thrown overboard, come the dawn and calmer sea you could have lost or forgotten them. That's where the salvage operation of spirit or soul rescue could come in.
Conglomerate or variant personality
Some of this mixture of 'people' or parts that comprise each one of us, may remain dormant as we remain largely unaware of some of their potentialities. Different circumstances may bring some to the fore, such as danger where we go into survival mode, or having to protect someone young or vulnerable. I don't think we can sit in judgment on ourselves or others, although we often do!
What I am suggesting is that, with some people more than others, the mix or the variation is greater and more significant. I am going to use a term more often used with groups, that of a group-mind or an egregore. But in this context I apply it to people, a person, a personal group-mind or egregore, with much more to it than we see on the surface, the tip of a personal iceberg. Extend the concept of one iceberg to the surrounding icebergs, or to a continent of ice, land or sea, and one can see how we could be affecting each other at some deep level via something more universal than ourselves or those close or similar in some way.
It is particularly with some of the people that Ann Rule and others describe who present such complex and divergent behaviours, that I seem to see this egregore quality, where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, and has such enormous effect on the environment.
Myths to live by
Ask someone their favourite book or film and you tend to get an answer with a theme behind it, some hero or heroine who fought the odds or the world to come up trumps, or remain detached from horrendous things and get along just fine.
I spent some time reading what psychological profilers said about people like serial killers and I don't recall the details. But there was a recurrent theme about incidents in their past leading up to where the killers continue till they are caught - as if nothing else will do as a suitable end-piece. Are they 'responsible' for how the killing or activity began, can they change without getting caught, can they change after getting caught?
I feel we should not generalise too much, because each person or 'soul' is different. I do believe some killers and violent criminals gain significant insight either by their own efforts or with appropriate help. It's as if they can see into their own and other people's souls.
I've never been happy with a theory that, because some people suffer bad experiences in their formative years and do not proceed to commit atrocities, everyone with bad experiences should be able to avoid committing atrocities. Actually I don't feel that option is open to all: it is more like something greater having such a huge impact they can't control it.
We need our myths, fairy tales, heroes or whatever it is, so that we can latch our strange human brains onto them. We need a choice of role models to guide us through literally or mentally in our mind, some concept or construct which does the job for us, makes us more than we are as an individual acting alone.
Some of this mixture of 'people' or parts that comprise each one of us, may remain dormant as we remain largely unaware of some of their potentialities. Different circumstances may bring some to the fore, such as danger where we go into survival mode, or having to protect someone young or vulnerable. I don't think we can sit in judgment on ourselves or others, although we often do!
What I am suggesting is that, with some people more than others, the mix or the variation is greater and more significant. I am going to use a term more often used with groups, that of a group-mind or an egregore. But in this context I apply it to people, a person, a personal group-mind or egregore, with much more to it than we see on the surface, the tip of a personal iceberg. Extend the concept of one iceberg to the surrounding icebergs, or to a continent of ice, land or sea, and one can see how we could be affecting each other at some deep level via something more universal than ourselves or those close or similar in some way.
It is particularly with some of the people that Ann Rule and others describe who present such complex and divergent behaviours, that I seem to see this egregore quality, where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, and has such enormous effect on the environment.
Myths to live by
Ask someone their favourite book or film and you tend to get an answer with a theme behind it, some hero or heroine who fought the odds or the world to come up trumps, or remain detached from horrendous things and get along just fine.
I spent some time reading what psychological profilers said about people like serial killers and I don't recall the details. But there was a recurrent theme about incidents in their past leading up to where the killers continue till they are caught - as if nothing else will do as a suitable end-piece. Are they 'responsible' for how the killing or activity began, can they change without getting caught, can they change after getting caught?
I feel we should not generalise too much, because each person or 'soul' is different. I do believe some killers and violent criminals gain significant insight either by their own efforts or with appropriate help. It's as if they can see into their own and other people's souls.
I've never been happy with a theory that, because some people suffer bad experiences in their formative years and do not proceed to commit atrocities, everyone with bad experiences should be able to avoid committing atrocities. Actually I don't feel that option is open to all: it is more like something greater having such a huge impact they can't control it.
We need our myths, fairy tales, heroes or whatever it is, so that we can latch our strange human brains onto them. We need a choice of role models to guide us through literally or mentally in our mind, some concept or construct which does the job for us, makes us more than we are as an individual acting alone.
Taking the tour
Suppose that we are all a bit of a mixture, various strands each representing some continuum of personality or behaviour or whatever. We weave our way through with some consistency or maybe not much at all. As other people don't see all of it all of the time, they either don't notice something that jars or they are much puzzled by it. We may be too, because we don't have the full story either. What tends to happen is we rationalise to ourselves if we do something unusual, finding plausible explanations so there's not so much dissonance or discrepancy with what we like to think or have always thought.
So this 'tour of personality' reminds me of a man-of-war fish that looks like an anomaly that gathered various flotsam and jetsam along the way. Maybe some parts are actually bigger than us, or cumulatively they change us beyond recognition.
Some of the people I mentioned in the books by Ann Rule, who are capable of varied and extreme behaviour, seem able to deny to themselves some things they have done. They then convince a lot of other people that 'what they see is what they get', and the other parts of themselves simply cannot be there - so therefore they did not do this particular thing. It works remarkably well.
There's a phrase about people re-inventing themselves, giving themselves a psychological makeover, which has relevance here. We accept it up to a point in others, use it up to a point ourselves to make headway, dropping off modes of behaviour which don't work so well or get us into trouble, finding something that works better. All of that seems fine so long as we don't shove something deep down that seeks expression and may find subversive ways to do that.
Tour of personality
I began reading books by Ann Rule who was initially a court reporter in the United States sometimes working on murder cases. She became intrigued and researched deeply into the lives and characters of some people involved and came up with amazing information and insights. What seemed to emerge was a phenomenon I am calling 'tour of personality'.
Some of the people involved in scenarios she describes are complex and the situations are naturally so. But some people seem to ride the waves no matter what happens and however bleak their future looks for being accused and convicted. Some play the legal system and key players against each other to get off the hook or get decisions overturned.
Some people are extremely complex and versatile, turning their hand or charm to a variety of situations and adapting along the way. Some are pillars of the community, much respected for their charity or humane work. One wonders how anyone could fit in a complex and turbulent private life, along with managing a family and home life, a business and public life. Then they face court or public scrutiny - and they keep on going. When the chips are down or there's no hope on the horizon, another rabbit comes blinking out of the hat and round it goes again with both supporters and detractors and the final 'truth' often hingeing on an apparently minor detail. So many variables come into play that some get away with it. Whether they can avoid sailing close to the wind for ever more is another theme.
Some job interviews
One of the first things that comes to my mind is going for a job interview, on reasonably best behaviour, showing willing to do the job and fit in. Get the job and it's too late! They realise you can't do the impossible or be totally sat upon; you realise they are nothing like they seemed.
One interviewer was affable and I was over the moon because I was redundant for the umpteenth time, not getting any younger. 'I bet you didn't think you'd walk straight into the job today' he said warmly. I don't think he ever spoke to me again even passing on the stairs. Another man seemed just the ticket and I was disappointed when the firm turned me down. A friend went there as a temp and said he was awful, he shouted and threw phones at people. I then went down the road to an innovative company working for a manager who did phone bit too. Within a week I applied for a transfer.
Several times I accepted a post, only to have nightmares the night before the start date and I'd phone them or the agency early on the day to say sorry but I wouldn't make it. Some people who hire and fire people or working in agencies know instinctively who will fit with whom or in what role. I know people with the gift of intuition, but it was not bestowed on me at birth so I learned the hard way, the long way round. Some of it may be to do with people's 'chosen camouflage' to coin a phrase from Transactional Analysis, that people may present themselves as opposite to how they really are.
Suppose that we are all a bit of a mixture, various strands each representing some continuum of personality or behaviour or whatever. We weave our way through with some consistency or maybe not much at all. As other people don't see all of it all of the time, they either don't notice something that jars or they are much puzzled by it. We may be too, because we don't have the full story either. What tends to happen is we rationalise to ourselves if we do something unusual, finding plausible explanations so there's not so much dissonance or discrepancy with what we like to think or have always thought.
So this 'tour of personality' reminds me of a man-of-war fish that looks like an anomaly that gathered various flotsam and jetsam along the way. Maybe some parts are actually bigger than us, or cumulatively they change us beyond recognition.
Some of the people I mentioned in the books by Ann Rule, who are capable of varied and extreme behaviour, seem able to deny to themselves some things they have done. They then convince a lot of other people that 'what they see is what they get', and the other parts of themselves simply cannot be there - so therefore they did not do this particular thing. It works remarkably well.
There's a phrase about people re-inventing themselves, giving themselves a psychological makeover, which has relevance here. We accept it up to a point in others, use it up to a point ourselves to make headway, dropping off modes of behaviour which don't work so well or get us into trouble, finding something that works better. All of that seems fine so long as we don't shove something deep down that seeks expression and may find subversive ways to do that.
Tour of personality
I began reading books by Ann Rule who was initially a court reporter in the United States sometimes working on murder cases. She became intrigued and researched deeply into the lives and characters of some people involved and came up with amazing information and insights. What seemed to emerge was a phenomenon I am calling 'tour of personality'.
Some of the people involved in scenarios she describes are complex and the situations are naturally so. But some people seem to ride the waves no matter what happens and however bleak their future looks for being accused and convicted. Some play the legal system and key players against each other to get off the hook or get decisions overturned.
Some people are extremely complex and versatile, turning their hand or charm to a variety of situations and adapting along the way. Some are pillars of the community, much respected for their charity or humane work. One wonders how anyone could fit in a complex and turbulent private life, along with managing a family and home life, a business and public life. Then they face court or public scrutiny - and they keep on going. When the chips are down or there's no hope on the horizon, another rabbit comes blinking out of the hat and round it goes again with both supporters and detractors and the final 'truth' often hingeing on an apparently minor detail. So many variables come into play that some get away with it. Whether they can avoid sailing close to the wind for ever more is another theme.
Some job interviews
One of the first things that comes to my mind is going for a job interview, on reasonably best behaviour, showing willing to do the job and fit in. Get the job and it's too late! They realise you can't do the impossible or be totally sat upon; you realise they are nothing like they seemed.
One interviewer was affable and I was over the moon because I was redundant for the umpteenth time, not getting any younger. 'I bet you didn't think you'd walk straight into the job today' he said warmly. I don't think he ever spoke to me again even passing on the stairs. Another man seemed just the ticket and I was disappointed when the firm turned me down. A friend went there as a temp and said he was awful, he shouted and threw phones at people. I then went down the road to an innovative company working for a manager who did phone bit too. Within a week I applied for a transfer.
Several times I accepted a post, only to have nightmares the night before the start date and I'd phone them or the agency early on the day to say sorry but I wouldn't make it. Some people who hire and fire people or working in agencies know instinctively who will fit with whom or in what role. I know people with the gift of intuition, but it was not bestowed on me at birth so I learned the hard way, the long way round. Some of it may be to do with people's 'chosen camouflage' to coin a phrase from Transactional Analysis, that people may present themselves as opposite to how they really are.
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The following comes from 'Speak of the Devil's blog:
Trends & tendencies
The following comes from 'Speak of the Devil's blog:
Trends & tendencies
Continuing on the theme of thoughtforms, what-have-you or who-are-you's: I read something on Henry Makow's site - someone who'd been in a particular form of religious practice said they knew they were worshipping or energising an egregore rather than something 'higher'. Egregore is a kind of energy entity, the theory being that energy or strength can pass both ways. That could be a reason why sacrifice is sometimes part of the ritual or process.
A huge book by Michael Bertiaux on Gnostic Voodoo suggests people can assimilate what other groups have built up. Someone else wrote about utilising other people's work rather than start from scratch with your own energy creation.
Books on the scene
'The Black Alchemist' Andrew Collins
'Out of the Shadows' J J Coughlin
'Spiritual Warfare: the Politics of the Christian Right' Sara Diamond 'Magic, Witchcraft & the Otherworld' Susan Greenwood
'The Occult Tradition' David S Katz
'Persuasions of the Witch's Craft' T M Luhrmann
'Witchcraft & Sorcery' ed Max Marwick
'The Dark Worship' Toyne Newton
'At the Heart of Darkness' John Parker
'The Dark Gods' A Roberts & G Gilbertson
'Witchcraft, Sorcery, Rumors & Gossip' P J Stewart & A Strathern
'The Philosophy of Magic' Versluis
'Out of the Shadows' J J Coughlin
'Spiritual Warfare: the Politics of the Christian Right' Sara Diamond 'Magic, Witchcraft & the Otherworld' Susan Greenwood
'The Occult Tradition' David S Katz
'Persuasions of the Witch's Craft' T M Luhrmann
'Witchcraft & Sorcery' ed Max Marwick
'The Dark Worship' Toyne Newton
'At the Heart of Darkness' John Parker
'The Dark Gods' A Roberts & G Gilbertson
'Witchcraft, Sorcery, Rumors & Gossip' P J Stewart & A Strathern
'The Philosophy of Magic' Versluis
Hissing & splitting
More reading on witchcraft, paganism, satanism, countries, cultures, allegations, counter-allegations. People will never agree! Some people are vociferous in demonstrating something doesn't happen. How can you demonstrate something does not, nay cannot happen? From around 1988 some writers have beavered away on 'it' from various standpoints. If more people checked more themes, more could come out than mere 'hissing and splitting'.
There are books on dark magick, creating entities, servitors, thoughtforms. Whether you accept those beliefs & practices, some people go to great lengths over them, no matter what they claim to believe, practise or deny.
So it's not good to be splitting hairs. A 'reflection' or 'splitting' process refers to the stances people take in describing a situation as if there is a vital or virulent need to fixate on one side. Needs must as the devil drives?
Something wicked this way comes
In the late 80's/early 90's came the 'satanism scare'. I was not directly involved in social work at that time but people with training/ experience were needed to talk to children who were affected. Living in the middle of nowhere I knew little about this. What were people talking about? Why was it not heard of before? Or was it? Should I get involved?
People tend to get, or be put onto one side of any argument or the other. One either 'believes' or is a 'sceptic'. The label doesn't matter so long as one can be categorised, dismissed, denigrated. Sometimes a viable explanation can make two end-points not mutually exclusive. I've met aggro that my view is left-wing or right - concepts meaningless to me.
Is there some thesis or unwritten law that something must be valid or not valid - for everyone rather than for an individual or a situation?
Changes afoot
There did seem an atmosphere of accepting other lifestyles and outlooks. In some parts of the world people ask 'Who is your God?' and the answer is no big deal. It'll either be the same or different. But books came along to change my sunny-side mental twist and I dug deeper.
Did magic work 'in olden times'? Did people 'not know any better'? Did they know better, abstaining from sticking spanners of disbelief in the works'?
Kick-off 1988
It started around 1988. When referring to any particular person, people or group, book or belief system, it is not meant to be detrimental or definitive.
There was renewed interest in the occult at the time and books were becoming available. The big Festivals of Mind-Body-Spirit were around mainly in London. It all seemed a step in the right direction, people free to look at what suited them and let others do the same. It didn't seem to work out like that - and this was 10 years before the Internet when we became used to people sounding off about everything to no-one & everyone.
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Some people form opinions or make careers in a way that suits them longterm - which isn't so easy in a changing world or when one changes in oneself. Getting fired from a job for 'not fitting in', I drifted into a museum I'd always walked past before, and happened across something that took me in a totally different direction. I couldn't have done it so well had I been trying to.
People tend to recognise a fellow traveller, a faller from the communal boat. The personnel manager for a large local company found my CV funny. 'When you see one like this' he said 'it means someone is searching for something that they're not going to find in a job'.
A summary of what followed is that strange things happen in mundane and unexpected places. I found that one's face can actually 'fit' sometimes with no rhyme or reason, even when inexperienced or making some huge mistake.
Luck? Swings and roundabouts? Or poetic justice, like when the aforementioned boss got fired himself soon after. But what did I ever do wrong!
The personnel bloke said I should look into astrology and graphology. Am not sure if he would get it in the neck these days for not being politically correct.
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Just to say I'll probably send you something which you can post - but it'll need to be anonymous
On the one about a personnel manager and fringe stuff, I knew someone who did personnel for a large company. She taught herself graphology to try to cut down on mistakes in hiring people.
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